so i'm having a majorly OFF day. however, i must admit that driving an hour and a half with the sunroof open your iPod only playing "hate" songs made me feel a little better.
i'm a single girl. duh! well, this is my lastest brush with a douchebag.
remember this post...where i mentioned i had a exchanged a few texts with a bartender i knew in town. well, then remember this post where i thought i had learned my lesson? yeah, apparently NOT!
background...we had reconnected back in december. and by "reconnected" i mean, he would drunk text me and i gave him an ultimatum that either he text me when he's sober or never text me again. well, i gave in like an idiot and made plans to have dinner and movie with him a few days after NYE only to have him cancel those plans the day of saying he "got called in to work."
about two weeks later...he was "facebook official" with some girl. i'll admit...it was like i had been punched in the stomach.
well, in late february he randomly texts me "what's up stranger?" i responded and the exchange was casual and strictly platonic. then a few days later, i see on my facebook news feed all these people had been writing on his wall "i hope you're doing better", "you scared me", "what did you do to yourself?"...i was geniunely worried, so against my better judgement i sent him a message on facebook to find out what happened and hoped that he was okay. he responded and thanked me. he was fine.
well, last saturday (while i was in charleston)...i sent him a sober text in the late afternoon just asking how he was. we ended up exchanging a few texts. he told me the whole story about his accident and how he was 6" away from dying, etc etc. we text all day the next day too. and he also told me he was moving back home to "take time off" and he would be moving back at the end of this week, but that he wanted to see me.
we were supposed to get together monday night. UNTIL...he sends me a text telling me he's going to "destroy some pizza" with his friends and their little girl at Chuck E. Cheese. WTF?!
since we started hanging out last October...this was the 3rd time he had cancelled plans.
3 strikes and you're out? apparently, that's not how i roll. tuesday he text me to find out what i was doing saturday. i made him wait it out and told him i already had plans.
against the single girls rule book, i text him thursday and gave him my "final offer." he could come over to my apt and hang out when he got off work. i didn't beat around the bush with this either. i let it be known it would be a sleepover. i mean i wasn't a whore about it...but playing coy takes too damn long. i knew he was leaving greenville and girls have needs too, right?
well, he text me friday and told me he probably wouldn't get off too late like he thought. so around 12am (when he was supposed to be off) i text him "if you're going to ditch me again then just tell me now so i can go to sleep." his response "almost done." then no less than 5 minutes later, he sent me a text saying "please don't hate me, but i'm just gonna go home. i have to be at work at 9am tomorrow and i can't stay up late." to which i responded...something about lying, etc etc. he tried to apologize and told me not to be mad. um...too late buddy.
ugh! my mom was right...he is gay.
moral of the story...listen to your mother and listen to the dude when they show you their TRUE self the FIRST time!
19 comments:
Seriously? Delete that # from your phone. Unfriend him on FB. You deserve way better than the way he treated you. Go find a JT look-alike.
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with a jerk!! Forget him!! You can find and deserve much better!!!
Awe girl! I absolutely HATE it when guys give the run around! I've had this happen to me before too so annoying! I'd rather they just have some "balls " and tell me get go from the start of whats going on basically not run around that just makes me dislike them even worst! Hope you have a great rest of the saturday and keep that chin up beautiful girl! ;)
UGH. Dudes.
Ok, so I bartended my way through college annnnnnnd here are two good rules:
a. always listen to your Mom
b. never date a bartender. They suck. For real.
:)
At least he is going home. Maybe now he won't be playing any games with your heart (haha bsb). If he needs a face punch let me know.
OH Beth!! ugh, I'm sorry!! You are beautiful, smart and funny ... you deserve someone so much better than chuck aka Baby Boy!! TRUST ME! If you need to get out of town, I know a great city with a your blonde twin who knows how to get into some shenanignas. Don't be sad, lesson learned. We've all been there, though. Story of a single girl's life. I can't wait until we meet our prince charmings, and THIS DAY WILL COME! (soon I hope so we don't die as cat ladies minus the cats because we're too lazy to even take care of them) LOVE YOU!
Linds
Ugh, Im sorry. Guys are such a-holes. You deserve sooo much better. Forget about him!
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GRRRRR!!! What a douche! Come to the beach and hang out with me! :)
Omg, You are way better than him!! I would delete him from everything...facebook/phone. Who does he think he is?? UGH
SOOOO agree with your mom!!!!
Hope u have a good week Beth!
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i agree about unfriending him and deleting the number from your phone...guess we should've stayed over later on friday night :) xo
what an a-hole. stick with your judgement of 3 strikes and your out. he doesnt deserve you!
He is STILL a douche wad. He is gay - I am in totally agreement with Jane. Tire slashings? ;)
oh hellllll no. he's definitely out. don't put up with that anymore.
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i started to follow u baby
it will be great, if u will answer me in following and do it too <33
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Sorry, Beth. He sounds like a real jerk. I'd wouldn't give him another thought. You deserve so much better!
He doesn't deserve a girl who is as AMAZEBALLS as you!
trust me when I say, we've all been there! we all say we are going to stand firm against assholes, but when we are actually in the situation and he's so cute and we have our "needs"... it's really hard to remember that. all you can do now is move on from it and not let him do it to you again. plus you were probably wasting time on him that could have been spent on someone better, focus on finding THAT guy. stay strong girl and know we all have these days. go eat some ice cream :)
like others have already said...we've all been there! also, just to reiterate:
- delete his number from your phone, and if you've memorized it...try to forget it.
- delete him from Facebook; block him if you have mutual friends and know you'll see posts from him that way
- in the future, listen to your momma...
- and as others have said, NEVER date a bartender! especially one who is really attractive, haha. that's just asking for trouble ;)
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