#YOLO #FOMO

if you know me (or even if you don't), you know that I am a BIG fan of justin timberlake.

i've been a fan of his since the ramen noodle hair/fubu/nsync days.

I won't go into how deep my fandom runs...but it's deeeeeeeep.  i'm pretty sure it's one reason why i'm still single b/c I know I will never love anyone as much as I love JT.

well...about 2 months ago I saw that he was ending his tour in vegas on New Year's Day.  and I got a case of the "YOLO's" and thought "what if he waits another 6 years to go on tour and I die or he dies and I've never seen his concert up close or on the floor."  I did some really serious thinking and decided to just go for it and figure it out later.

let me point out that i've seen this 20/20 Experience Tour twice already (and this would be my 3rd) in less than a year.

the day the vegas tickets were going on sale I was perusing his web site getting ready to pounce the minute they went on sale when I discovered that he was going to be outside of atlanta (2 hour drive from greenville) on a saturday in december which was even MORE perfect.  so I quickly got on stub hub to buy some resale tickets.  I had my credit card ready and picked out (what I thought were) the perfect seats.  I won't tell you how much they cost me, but my credit card has been "relaxing" since that purchase.

the first person to ask to go with me to see JT is ALWAYS sandi.  she's been my ride or die to these concerts for years.  I've seen JT in concert 8 times (2 including Nysnc) and 5 out of those 8 have been with her.  I sent her a text while I was purchasing the tickets that said "I hope you don't have any plans on Dec 20th b/c we're going to see Justin." 

I got this in response 

and an enthusiastic "YES!"

and 2 months later we were OFF to see the man, the myth, the legend, Mr. Timberlake.

i'm still on Cloud 9 and look at all of my pics/videos often.

if he EVER comes near you in the future, do yourself a favor and buy tickets to see him.  I promise you won't regret it.  I realize I'm biased, but I've heard for MANY years from many people (sometimes grown men) that he is the best concert they've ever seen.

he sings, he dances, he PERFORMS for 3 hours straight.  I doubt those young one direction guys or justin bieber are doing that on stage.

soooo...#YOLO and #FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) took over and I don't regret it at all.

sandi did a full recap of the concert on her blog as well.  check it out here.

dating in your 30's.

last night as I was getting ready for (yet another) first date and I stopped and asked myself "how many dates have you been on this year?"  I seriously had to recount a few times just to be sure I had it right.

I joined tinder last september/october and so far i've been on dates with 5 different guys.  and in that time i've been on 7 first dates (2 of the 7 dates were set up by mutual friends...the rest was set up by tinder).  i've had a lot of "success" on tinder...except I don't know if you call it "success" if no relationship has come out of it.

7 first dates

2 second dates

1 third date

1 fourth date

1 fifth date

1 sixth date

here's a little synopsis of some of those first dates...

there was the one guy where I had to meet him for lunch during the week, which meant I couldn't calm my nerves with a little pinot grigio before hand.  the date was also the brother-in-law of a co-worker/good friend.  it was a great first date, but no second date followed.

there was one guy that I couldn't get him to talk, so I had to keep talking forever about game of thrones and breaking bad.  the date was really short and I was so excited when the server brought back the check b/c I was thinking in my head "YES! I get to go home and put on my sweatpants!" until he then asked if I wanted to go get ice cream and I knew I couldn't back out.  needless to say...I didn't let that "friend" set me up on any dates again.  although, she did try.

there was one guy that I drank WAY too much wine to settle my nerves before the date and then drank WAY too many margs once I was on the date that I don't remember much...hence there was no second date.

there was a guy who asked me to dinner at panera bread, which immediately turned me off. then later asked a single girlfriend her advice on if i was being a bitch by not wanting to go to panera bread for DINNER and after a few texts we figured out she had been on a date with this guy and she warned me not to go b/c I would not like him at all.  so I cancelled the date due to a "stomach bug" and never spoke to him again...although he made many attempts to speak to me.

there was one guy that I really hit it off with this summer.  our first date was probably the best first date i've ever been on and he even said that to me within the first 10 minutes of being there.  the conversation never lacked and I never wanted the date to end. they almost had to throw us out of the restaurant b/c i'm sure they were about to close. we've been on several dates and hung out several times since our first date in late june. but he'll fade away for a couple of weeks and then we'll go on a date and the same pattern.  

then there was the guy that I went on a date with last night.  it was nice.  he was nice.  not my top pick of a first date place, but it was fine.  he's the same guy that is texting me as I type this blog post to ask me out on a 2nd date.  but I kept comparing the date it in my head to the guy that I still can't stop thinking about, but the same guy that never asks me out on dates...atleast not that often. 

dating sucks. dating can be fun. dating is exhausting. dating is me drinking a lot.

if you really knew me...

well, Kate started it so I'm joining this bandwagon.  you always learn so much stuff about your friends this way.  

let's get started shall we?

my boobs are the same size as Katy Perry and Kate Upton...34DD

people tell me I remind them of chelsea handler

dick in a box is one of my favorite christmas tunes

i've had my belly button pierced...twice

i've had my tongue pierced...once

I hate current country music, but I LOVE (and can sing almost every word) all 90's country music

if I ever get married, I want to get married on either the 24th, 26th, or 28th of a month.  not sure why, but I "like" those numbers.

i've been known to take many drunk baths...it's kind of "my thing"

if you don't cuss, we can't be friends.

I have a very sick sense of humor and make no apologies for it.

I could live on chick fil-a for the rest of my life.

I don't do horror movies...at all.

I've seen Justin Timberlake in concert a total of 8 times...3 times this year alone.  the love runs REAL deep, y'all.

I haven't told anyone the full amount I spent on tickets to see him next month.  but...#YOLO

I love music...but my favorites are anything by John Mayer, 90's R&B, and Rap/Hip Hop (thought I was going to say JT, huh?)

I hate reading...books, long blogs with no pictures, magazines, online articles.

I used to LOVE to read when I was little and it's one of my favorite gifts to give all of my friends little ones.

I still firmly believe in snail mail.  I love sending AND receiving it.

I hate talking on the phone.  so much so, that even at work I won't answer the phone when people call my office.

I love making lists.

I love organizing...and I would LOVE to make a professional career out of doing just that.

my dream when I was younger was to audition to be on the real world.  I swore to myself when I turned 18, I would send in a tape.  I never did.

When I was little, I wanted to either be a teacher or a comedian.

Thanksgiving/Christmas is my favorite time of year...because it reminds me of my childhood.

my parents divorced when I was 11, I was present at the time when they decided to get divorced...there wasn't one of those "sit down, Beth we have to tell you something."

I hate being an only child.  when I was younger, I would have imaginary brothers/sisters.  now that I'm older, I realize I don't have any support to help taking care of aging parents.

dads with little girls make my heart and ovaries explode.

ryan gosling doesn't do it for me.

i've been single my ENTIRE life and will probably die alone.

I once questioned my sexuality because I loved Hanson and especially Taylor Hanson.  Since he looked like I girl, I thought I might be lesbian.

as I've get older, I grow farther away from my faith.  and I'm okay with that.  I still believe in the power of prayer and God...but not sure about any of that Bible mumbo-jumbo.

I think I might be obsessed with anything Kardashian related.

Happy Holidays!

facts.

I always love doing these things...and I always love reading them.  so enjoy.

nicknames people call me:

sweet bef, bizzle, poo, monk

favorite things in my apartment:

my iPad; my box of letters, cards, invites; the pure beech modal sheets on my bed...SOOOO comfy

guilty pleasures:

nightly baths, eating shredded cheese from the package, eating icing with a spoon, my love for 90's country music

favorite disney movie:

the little mermaid

worst habit:

forgetting to brush my teeth at night

my happy place:

on a beach....in the morning...with a drink, chair, umbrella, and music...and no one else around.

pet peeves:

when people don't text and/or email me back if the text/email needs a direct response.  KILLS ME.

favorite pick me up:

snail mail, online shopping, sweet texts from a crush

happy.

just a few things that make me happy.

fall colors.

wine.

wine with friends.

sam hunt.

a well dressed man.

snail mail--sending and receiving.

packages at my door.

rap music.

bestie texts using only emojis

buzzfeed quizzes.

a fun party dress.

a fun party to wear said dress.

high heels.

happy hour.

surprises for friends.

cupcakes.

southern cookin' .

slumber parties.

healthy lungs.

October is a lot of things...cool weather, fall leaves, pumpkin spice lattes, tall boots...but did you know that October is also National Healthy Lung month?

My pal Heather told me her story and why having healthy lungs is important to her.

Eight years ago, I was diagnosed with pleural mesothelioma, a rare cancer caused by exposure to asbestos, that affects the lining of the lungs. I had just given birth to my daughter Lily, and was told that I might not live to see her first birthday. After the removal of my left lung and a series of treatments, I am now part of the very small group of mesothelioma survivors.

Her cancer was caused from the abestos fibers that were on her dad's old work jacket.  She wore it for years when doing chores outside.

Heather and The Cancer Alliance want everyone to be informed about the ways to keep our lungs healthy.

Did you know?

• Approximately 1.5 billion people are breathing dangerously high levels of pollution each day.
• Mesothelioma is an aggressive cancer that attacks the lining of the body cavity called the mesothelium.  The only known cause to mesothelioma is exposure to asbestos.
• The number of women with mesothelioma is expected to rise because of the secondary exposure to abestos.
• Abestos is still not banned in the United States today.
• You can keep your lungs healthy by avoiding air pollution, exposure to toxic substances and not smoking tobacco.

These are just some of the facts that I would have known if I hadn't read about Heather's story.  It's important to listen to your instincts and if you feel sick, see a doctor.  

If you want to learn more about this terrible disease, you can visit  http://www.mesothelioma.com/mesothelioma/

depression is real and suicide sucks.

I feel compelled to write this post, especially after the terribly, sad news of hearing that Robin Williams took his own life yesterday.

Depression is real and it's not about someone being sad.  Sure, sadness is a part of it but it's only a very small part of a bigger beast.

I've suffered with depression since I was 19 years old and it's only gotten worse as I've gotten older and taken on more responsibilities as an adult.  That's just my story and i'm not saying that depression gets worse as an adult for everyone.  

I've been in some very deep, dark places and I've probably shared the same thoughts as Robin Williams did. I've never known someone personally that has committed suicide.  But I've had friends that have lost someone or I've known others to be just as deeply depressed and going through the same motions.  

The only thing that has gotten me through is knowing that I have a support system and people that love me and care about me and want me to be here.  But that is NOT to say that those that make a decision to release their depression don't have a support system or people that love them and tell them often.  

Depression doesn't really care if you have family, friends, faith, or if you're the sweetest and funniest person in the world.  And suicide isn't a form of "giving up" either.  It's not as selfish as most people think.  

I read this article this morning and it put into perspective my own thoughts and feelings on depression.

You can be the happiest, funniest, kindest, most remarkable person on the planet just like Robin Williams and still be so lonely on the inside.

as a friend said yesterday..."depression is real. suicide sucks."

When I was a little girl and people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would say a comedian.  Robin Williams was one of the reasons I had that crazy dream.

I decided to take a different path in life, but I still get joy out of making people laugh as I know he did.

I'm sure there was a seat at the front reserved for him.

the face.

my skin has always been terrible. zits all the time.

 

and suddenly within the last 4 months or so, I simplified my skin care routine and i've noticed a TON of changes.  this was all done by chance and not on purpose.  Now, I RARELY get any zits.  maybe one every 2-3 months and that's usually because I neglected to take my make-up off the night before. 

 

I wanted to let you know what's working for me in case you have acne-prone skin too.  I seriously want to shout it from the roof-tops of how happy I am with my skin now...so consider this blog post my skin care soapbox.

 

i'm not really sure what category my skin would fall under...it's normal-oily in the warm months and tends to get more dry in the cold ones.  however, the products I use aren't for particular skin types so it should be okay for any face.

 

here's how it goes:

 

1. at night I remove my make-up with these oil-free neutrogena face wipes.  I like them better than other face wipes because they are "oil-free"...others i've used always leave that oily residue.  these don't (obvi)

 

2. in the morning, i wash my face in the shower using purpose facial cleanser.  it's gentle and just gives my face a "fresh start" for the day.

 

3. every other day, i use st ives fresh skin apricot scrub.  i'm convinced this is the only thing that's preventing my zits and bad skin.  I used it back in april and noticed changes and haven't looked back since.  I had been using neutrogena pink grapefruit foaming scrub on a daily basis back in the winter and it dried my face out.  And when I cut back to once a week, it didn't really seem to help...the zits still came.  so St Ives is where it's at and where it will stay.

 

4. after my shower, I put on the purpose moisturizer.  i've always used some sort of daily moisturizer, especially one with an SPF.

 

and now to the best thing i've ever laid my hands on...Garnier BB Cream.

 

 

for a year, I had been using Tarte BB Cream as my foundation.  I loved it until I didn't have $$ to pick up a new tube.  so I looked through target and kept sampling BB Creams...Maybelline, Loreal, Almay, all of them.

 

 I tried Loreal BB Cream for a week or two and the color didn't match well and by the end of the day my face was super oily and disgusting.

 

I did a little research and read good things about Garnier BB Cream so on my last target run I dropped it in my cart.

 

holy. shizz. it's PERFECT and goes on flawlessly.  it's not oily, it doesn't look like I have on an orange make-up mask and it's a huge tube so I know i'll be able to stretch that $10 before I need to purchase more.  it is also Broad Spectrum SPF 15, so it's perfect to wear to the beach or the pool if you want to get sun protection AND make-up coverage.

 

not to mention, I got several compliments on how great my skin looked after I started using it.  so that's an obvious perk.  and basicallythe reason i'm declaring my love for this product from the roof-tops today.

 

okay...now i've stepped off my skin soapbox.  thanks for playing!

dating in 2014: a tinder tale.

if you're not sure what tinder is...it's a dating app. you decide whether you like someone based on the 1-5 pictures they provide. also, you can write a quick line about yourself if you choose.  if you both like each other, then you're matched. it's quick. it's easy.  

 

i'll preface this recent tinder tale with...

it was a friday evening, I received a message from a tinder match, "Mark." it had been a really rough week at work. i was exhausted, stressed and trying to relax.

 

this is what happens when you catch me on one of those days...

 

 

 

and this is what dating is like in 2014, ladies. go kiss your husband.  hell, give him a blow job.

I need to let it out.

this blog is just for me. it's where I can write my feelings. let out frustrations. discuss my highs. suffer in my lows. if someone happens to read it and relate then that's an added bonus.

 

if you don't want to hear someone whine...then maybe this particular post isn't for you.

 

and if no one reads this post at all...that's okay too. it's just an online diary and everyone has a key to the lock and I can never lose the key (unless the internet stops working) so I can come back in 5, 10, or 15 years to read and look how far i've come (fingers crossed there is progression by that time).

 

the following are just thoughts. thoughts I want to let out so I'm not constantly being that "passive-aggressive annoying person" on twitter or pinterest.

 

1. i'm passive on twitter.  i hate it when people are that way on facebook, but I do pretty much the same thing on twitter. except my main objective is not to get people to ask me "what's wrong" or "who are you talking about."  it's just random tweets.  yes, they are usually about certain people or events, but I don't tweet them to get a reaction. i tweet to tweet.

 

2. i'm passive on pinterest. i would say that 75% of the "inspirational" quotes I pin onto my "truth." board are not meant for me. they are meant for others to see.  i will pin quotes with the intention of a specific person (not always the same person) reading it. i could send it to he/she directly, but i do it passively (obviously).

 

3. i wish i could just write emails to everyone i have problems with and let out all my aggressions on how i feel they treat me or treat others.  but i realize that would be an asshole move. honesty isn't always the best policy, but i wish it could be. 

 

3a. but sometimes if you catch me on a bad day...the f*cks I gave are gone and there's no turning back.  ask the guy on tinder who's metaphorical balls i cut off with a butterknife. different story for a different day.

 

4. i try to go into a new weekday with a positive attitude, but by 9am that's all out the window.

 

5. i wish i could find a way to be happy. just happy with everything.  my job. my friends. my family. my social life. my finances. everything.

 

6. i'm jealous. my jealousy is usually manifested in those passive tweets you see. i've tried to convince myself it's because i'm a better person or friend, but i've realized, the reason i'm upset is mostly just because i'm jealous.

 

7. i need to stop being jealous.  jealous of their money. their success. their path in life.  their smiles that i don't have.

 

8. i used to think everyone around me was a C U Next Tuesday, but the more i sit back...that person might actually be me.

 

9. if there is any way to cure me of my jealous, mean-spirited, passive-aggressive ways...please let me know.  i beg you. if you actually read this post and saw 1-8...i obviously need help.

 

 

 

 

if you really knew me...

if you really knew me, you would know...

I don't like chocolate cake.  I mean i'll eat it if presented or available free of charge (obviously), but my cake of choice is ALWAYS white cake with white buttercream frosting.  whipped frosting is NOT frosting.

oh man...you don't know how bad I would eat that bert & ernie cake right now.

I don't drink sweet tea.

I don't like grits or eggs. 

if asked "where would you eat for the rest of your life" my answer would be Chick Fil-A.

if it's not a pink or red starburst, then it's garbage.

all I think about is food...(re: this post)

I'm not much of a morning person...if you work with me...don't talk to me until about 11am.

I really hated being an only child growing up.

I minored in dance in college...but later switched to english but dance as a minor is stupid, especially for someone that can only do the electric slide.

the only reason I majored in advertising was because my roommate told me you didn't have to take math or science classes and immediately I signed up.

my drink of choice in high school was Smirnoff Ice, Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill or "Everglade" (Everclear and Gatorade).

I can confirm that some "high school drinks" were consumed this night back in 2001 during my senior cruise.

 

I no longer drink my "high school drinks of choice."

snail mail and giving gifts are my love languages.

some of my bucket list times include 

1. to be thrown a surprise party with all my friends (is that selfish?...don't answer that)

2. go whale watching

3. travel to greece

and now my friends, you know a little more about me...if you didn't already know it!

wedding season.

let's start from the beginning...

april 12, 2014

my friend stefanie married her sweet husband, richard in asheville at The Farm. 

when stefanie was searching for a venue, I would randomly send her web sites for local outdoor spaces.  one of the last ones I sent her was The Farm.  my bff Kate had been to a wedding there in october for a mutual friend ashton.

stefanie text me to tell me she was on her way to take a tour and later that day told me they had booked it.

I couldn't wait to see it for myself.  it was gorgeous and the weather was perfect and I was honored that stefanie asked me to be bridesmaid and stand by her side on her and richard's big day.

the ceremony was short and sweet (just the way I like it) and was legit one of the best weddings i've attended.

the dance party we had at the reception was insane.  sandi and I were sore for about a week after that night.

may 10, 2014

i've known adam since we were little kids growing up going to the same schools and church together. 

I met heather in 7th grade and we've been good friends ever since.

they had known each other since 7th grade as well, but didn't start dating until 2011.

I was honored to help her with her big day.  their venue was perfect and especially perfect location for me because it was only 5 minutes down the road at the beautiful Ryan Nicholas Inn.

besides being "shushed" by the wedding coordinator (another story for another time) at the rehearsal dinner everything was perfect.

it was so nice to catch up with people that I graduated high school with and haven't seen in a few years. 

and it was especially great to hang out with my fellow "Dixie Chicks" (when you go to a high school named Dixie in the late 90's/early 00's when Goodbye Earl is a top hit song...you can call yourselves that).  i've made some lifelong memories with all of these girls and we will continue to make memories until the day we die.  it's hard to believe this little crew has been going strong since high school.

june 14th, 2014

the last wedding on my schedule (so far) this year.

in february my best friend, mandy told me she was engaged and asked me if I would be her maid of honor.

even though her wedding hasn't happened just yet...we've already started the party rolling with a Bridal Shower, Stock the Bar Party, Monograms & Mimosa's shower, and I'm planning a Bachelorette Party for her at the end of the month.

it's been a whirlwind, but I love planning things and finding new ideas on pinterest.  it's all I do in the evenings after work.

and this, my friends, is how i've continued my reign as "always the bridesmaid, never the bride" - 6 dresses total and counting.

20 questions.

Christina did this 20 Questions Survery and I figured since now my work has disabled all the "fun" stuff from my computer (gchat included), what better way to pass the time?

 

1. What brings you the greatest joy?

music. snail mail (giving or receiving). the beach. laughing.

 

2. What are your vices?

booze. chick fil-a.

 

3. What is on your nightstand?

lamp. picture of forsyth park fountain in savannah, ga. small (fake) roses, one line a day journal.

 

4. Do you have a secret talent?

I have many talents, but none of which are secret.

 

5. What is your greatest indulgence?

eating. I love to eat. I especially love to eat out.

 

6. What should every woman try at least once in her life?

being single. obviously coming from a perpetually single girl this would be something I would say...but hear me out.

I think every woman should try being single...atleast for a good 6 months. learn to function alone. learn to rely on yourself. learn to make yourself happy.

 

7. What makes you laugh?

oh man, what doesn't make me laugh?

top of my laughter list right now is Broad City on Comedy Central and Curb Your Enthusiasm.

 

8. What is one thing people would be surprised to know about you?

I don't know if people would be "surprised", but I don't really tell anyone when I go on dates...not even my closest friends.  I just assume no one would really care to hear my dating stories, while they're trying to juggle their own busy lives. but if you ask me, i'll tell you.

 

9. What is on your bucket list?

greece. happy marriage that lasts a lifetime. children. grandchildren. italy.

 

10. What is on your feet right now?

these.

 

 

11. How did you make your first dollar?

my first job was as a cashier at Winn-Dixie grocery store. I got it the summer after my junior year of high school and worked until I went to college the summer of 2001.

 

12. What superstition do you believe in?

I'm not really superstitious, but my mom is extremely superstitious. your basic stuff like black cats, umbrellas inside, walking under ladders, and others.  her tried and true superstition is you have to take your christmas tree down before the new year or you'll have bad luck all year long. i've done it every year since I've been out of my moms house and I can assure you it doesn't work.

 

13. What items in your closet do you wear the most?

jeans. these are currently my faves.  i probably wear them atleast twice a week.

 

 

14. What is the best gift you’ve ever received?

I can't pinpoint the best gift. because any gift i've received whether it was just a birthday card or a picture of a friends kid it was special and thoughtful.

 

15. What is on your liquor shelf?

nothing. I don't have a shelf for my liquor. if I did, it would only stay there MAYBE a week.

 

16. What is on your kitchen counter?

microwave. toaster. steak knives. flowers.

 

17. What would you never leave home without?

keys. wallet. phone.

 

18. What movie has the greatest ending?

the sixth sense? that's like the worst answer ever. that movie had me creeped out for weeks when it first came out. check back with me later.

 

19. Who is on the guest list for your ideal dinner party?

justin timberlake. britney spears. all my best g/f's. that's enough, right?

 

20. What is one thing you wish you had known when you were younger?

you're gonna hate being an adult. stay in college as long as you can afford. don't rush it.

no new friends.

I've never been someone to get into a huge fight with a close friend, that turns us into enemies. 

 

that's not to say that I haven't gotten in fights with friends...I have...when I was younger and immature.  but it was eventually resolved and now I can't even remember what the fights were about.

 

I'm lucky enough to say that the core group of friends I have, I've known for over 10 years...some since before I can even remember.

 

and as I've gotten older, I've been able to create new friendships...not many...but a few, with people who I feel like I've known forever and I'm so grateful to have in my life.

 

but with age, comes wisdom.  the wisdom that just because you've known someone for a long time, doesn't mean they will stay your friend forever.  sometimes you grow apart, sometimes you have issues, sometimes it's one sided.

 

I pride myself on the fact that [I think] i'm a loyal friend. I've tried so hard, mostly with the same friend, to keep the friendship going.  only to be let down and disappointed time and time again. and as with any relationship...you can't make it work unless both parties are willing to try. and i'm done being the only person that tries.

 

I was talking to someone yesterday about this and said...

 

"i'm too old to try so hard to keep friendships that are strictly one sided. I've got plenty of friends that are loyal and good to me to care."

it's called a break-up, because it's broken...the quote i've always heard regarding romantic relationships, but it works with any relationship.

 

i'll leave you with some quotes to live by...even if it's hard

tinder tales.

I've been working on this post for a while now.  compiling my best (err worst) tinder tales.

you all heard this tinder tale earlier this week. 

if you follow me on twitter (@sweetbef), then you know i've been using the dating app Tinder. 

 

if you're not familiar with Tinder...here is a little synopsis...it's connected via your facebook.  you like people clearly based on looks.  you swipe left if you're not interested in their appearance and swipe right if you are.  depending on my location, I would only get guys in a certain radius of me.  if you both swipe righ,t then you're matched and from there your love can blossom. 

 

i feel comfortable telling you all about my experiences because for some reason, it makes me feel less shame than eHarmony or Match.

 

Sami suggested I do a blog post on my Tinder experiences. 

oh man, dudes are weird and needy.

 

here are some things I've encountered in my experiences...

 

1. Your boyfriend might be on Tinder. 

 

I've had a picture come up atleast three times where it was someone I knew wasn't single...because I knew his girlfriend.  Maybe the dudes are curious about what this app is and just forget to delete it,  but I feel like that's 9 out of 10 times NOT the case.  Ladies...check up on your man's smart phone apps.

 

2. Don't give out your phone number to a dude you've matched up with until you're absolutely certain he's not a freak.

 

I've exchanged numbers with several tinder cats and immediately regretted it.  1. "hey" is not an effective form of initial contact. 2. if I don't respond to your text and 5-10 minutes later you send another one...you need to learn restraint.  because you've officially turned me off.

 

3. Dear Dudes of Tinder, don't ask to be Facebook friends and then follow up with "Did you add me on Facebook, yet?" Because I will cut you from my life.

 

4. I once had a dude ask me the following questions...

 

- When was your last great kiss?

- Tell me something most people don't know about you?

- What's your best feature?

- What color are your eyes?

 

These were all asked before I had even responded to the lame "hey" initiator.

 

I've only been on ONE date through this whole adventure.  I keep holding out thinking I'll "meet" someone normal and cool.  so my track record is like -85%.  I'm not sure why I keep doing it. 

I guess i'm an I'm an emotional cutter.

 

 

the double meet-up: a tinder tale.

if you're single these days, you've probably heard of  the new dating app, Tinder.

 

if not...a brief synopsis:  flip through photos of singles in radius of your current location and swipe left if you're not interested and swipe right if you are interested.  if you both swipe right, then you are matched and the love can blossom.

 

 

i've been swiping left and right since around september.  i've exchanged some numbers, been on dates (well, just one, but who's counting?), cancelled dates, blocked the crazy ones, flirtexted, etc.

 

this past thursday I had a "funny encounter" with one of my tinder matches that I thought you might all like to hear.

 

thursday night: meet up with my single gal pal, brooke downtown for some happy hour drinks.

 

I recently suggested she join tinder.  we were exchanging stories of our recent matches.  she mentioned one guy she's been messaging.  I recognized the name and looked on my tinder matches to find that we were matched and had exchanged some messages.  the last message sent about a week ago.

 

brooke mentioned this guy wanted to meet her out that night.  I was totally okay with that and assumed that since were in a small crowd of about 5, and since I hadn't messaged him in about a week that he wouldn't even remember me. 

 

well...about the same time I'm telling her to ask him to meet us out, he messaged me "hey there :)" (side note: I have a love/hate relationship with dudes that use smiley's and/or emojis)

 

I didn't respond, but I let Brooke know he had messaged me and still told her to invite him out and that if anything it would be a hilarious story.  and let's be real...I hate a cockblock.

 

homie is trying to put all his eggs in one basket...I can't hate his single game play.  he has NO idea Brooke and I know each other.

 

he comes in the bar with 2 of his guy friends and introduces himself to Brooke.  I'm sitting next to another guy and girl who are in our group eating some bar food, looking at my phone.  she points me out, but I don't make any moves to show my face.  later, brooke excuses herself to the bathroom and he leans over to me and says "we were matched up on tinder. I thought this was an ambush."  I played dumb and told him "oh, no.  I don't ever check my tinder." *nervous laughs* 

 

but it's not the fact that he was communicating me with brooke and I at the same time that concerned me.  my biggest concern was his outfit choice of the night.

 

thursday night temps in Greenville were around 35-40ish degrees.  this cat had on a white LINEN suit and khaki jacket.  1. who owns a linen suit?! 2. those that do own a linen suit, who would wear one in the winter times?

 

 

 

when brooke was using the restroom, this conversation happened:

 

me: "so, what's up with the suit? it's winter and you're wearing linen."

tinder: "well, i'm from montana..."

me: "no. then why would you even have a linen suit if you're from montana?!"

tinder: "but I love florida and the heat and I'm moving there in september"

me: "that doesn't make sense"...blank stare

 

it's too bad his outfit choice was hideous, because his face was really cute.