I've never been someone to get into a huge fight with a close friend, that turns us into enemies.
that's not to say that I haven't gotten in fights with friends...I have...when I was younger and immature. but it was eventually resolved and now I can't even remember what the fights were about.
I'm lucky enough to say that the core group of friends I have, I've known for over 10 years...some since before I can even remember.
and as I've gotten older, I've been able to create new friendships...not many...but a few, with people who I feel like I've known forever and I'm so grateful to have in my life.
but with age, comes wisdom. the wisdom that just because you've known someone for a long time, doesn't mean they will stay your friend forever. sometimes you grow apart, sometimes you have issues, sometimes it's one sided.
I pride myself on the fact that [I think] i'm a loyal friend. I've tried so hard, mostly with the same friend, to keep the friendship going. only to be let down and disappointed time and time again. and as with any relationship...you can't make it work unless both parties are willing to try. and i'm done being the only person that tries.
I was talking to someone yesterday about this and said...
"i'm too old to try so hard to keep friendships that are strictly one sided. I've got plenty of friends that are loyal and good to me to care."
it's called a break-up, because it's broken...the quote i've always heard regarding romantic relationships, but it works with any relationship.
it's called a break-up, because it's broken...the quote i've always heard regarding romantic relationships, but it works with any relationship.
i'll leave you with some quotes to live by...even if it's hard
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I needed this right now. I'm dealing with some friend issues and loyalty :/
I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. I just said the other day, it's about quality not quantity.
I went through something similar to this w/ a long time friend about a year and a half/two years ago. She's sort of come around since going through a difficult divorce, but I didn't include her in my wedding. It's sad, but it happens, and we have wonderful friends that we CAN enjoy.
I posted about something similar I went through last year. We are not in high school. We don't have to stay friends with people because you see them all the time and you will break up the group. It's hard at first but gets easier. Life is too short to waste time of people who make you feel bad or don't give back what you put in. Proud of you girl!
Is it me? I'm nervous. Sweating actually... Over and out.
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