same love.

The right-wing conservatives think it's a decision

And you can be cured with some treatment and religion

Man-made, rewiring of a pre-disposition Playing God

Ahh nah, here we go

America the brave

Still fears, what, we don't know

And God loves all His children

Is somehow forgotten

But we paraphrase a book written

35 hundred years ago

I don't know

-Macklemore

 

some of you that read this blog aren't going to agree with me and I'm not here to change your mind or to get on a soapbox, but every time I hear this song on the radio...those lyrics above in particular, it makes my heart smile that it's on the radio at all. 

 

maybe one day, possibly sooner than later, all those people that were protesting gay marriage / rights will realize they are similar to the same people that were protesting racial rights 50 years ago.

 

I can already see changes in younger generations and their acceptance for all people.

 

gay marriage wouldn't ruin the sanctity of marriage...straights do that fairly well on their own. 

 

 

my most favorite birthday present.

not sure if you're aware, but I was given a pretty cool birthday present this year for my 30th birthday.

 

Kate and her husband, Bryan gave me a baby boy named Trace.  Trace was born on June 26, 2013.  We're 30 years apart, but I'm happy to have him as my little birthday twin.

 

 

ever since last christmas when I found out they were expecting and she said her due date was June 28th, I kept telling her to have him 2 days early just for me.  well, trace heard my request and proceeded to make sure he arrived as a birthday gift to me.

 

 

for about a month, I'd been planning to visit the newest Gailey and on Sunday I traveled up to Charlotte with my best friend, Sandi in tow.  I was so excited for so many reasons.

 

1. I was going to meet baby Trace.

 

2. I was going to see Kate and Bryan...and see them as new parents.

 

3. Two of my best friends were going to meet each other.

 

Sandi has been my best friend since 8th grade, so naturally Kate had already heard a LOT about her and I had already told Sandi a LOT about Kate.   at some point before Trace was born, Sandi said she would love to go with me to meet Kate and see the baby.  so we made it happen. 

 

I was so thrilled for Kate and Sandi to meet each other.  this little blogging community brings a lot of great people together and I'm so glad we're all 3 a part of it.  I've told Kate before, "I didn't think I needed any more best friends, but I'm so glad I found you."

 

 

it was the perfect day.  we had lunch on the lake.  did some MAJOR girl talk.  Sandi has a 17 month old (aka "Baby Cade") so she and Kate had tons of mommy story swapping and advice giving to offer up for each other.  I offered up...nothing...but I was able to fill them in on my non-existent love life which I'm sure is fun for anyone to hear.

 

it was a really good day.

 

oh, and if you're wonderng...Trace is the sweetest 6lb baby.  his favorite thing to do is sleep and eat and now spend time with his "Auntie Bef."

finish the sentence

I saw that Jake and Molly did another edition of Finish the Sentence, but I wasn't "impressed" with my responses, so I went back to one of the link-up's from May and grabbed those. 

 

enjoy.

 

My best friends say...I'm the most thoughtful, loving, beautiful, funny, sweet, most perfect friend they have.  just kidding...I don't know what they say...it's probably behind my back. ;)

 

 

People call me... funny.  I can live with that.

The best part of my day... 5:45 when I've just gotten home from work, taken off my bra, got in my sweats or PJ's, hair is up in a wild ass pony tail / bun sitch and I'm on my couch playing Jewel Mania.

 

 

 

I really don't understand... why we aren't all in flying cars by now.

 

I get really annoyed... in traffic. drivers are idiots and assholes (me included sometimes) most of my F bombs are dropped when I'm in the car.

 

There's nothing like a... cold beer on a summer day.

 

Lately, I can't get enough... Candidly Nicole.  how did I not realize these existed until last week?  I'm obsessed.  I'm pretty sure Nicole and I are the same person (minus the weight and marriage thing).

 

One thing I am NOT is... motivated.  i'm a lazy human. a major procrastintor. extremely complacent.

I spent too much money on... makeup.  most recently, I decided to use my birthday $$ on buying a bunch of new "big girl" makeup.  since i'm now 30...I felt like the bare minerals I've been using since college was old and tired. I needed to spruce up my makeup collection. it's slowly coming together.

 

I want to learn... to twerk.  I like to think I can...I've got an ass, but I have a hard time moving it indepently from the rest of my body.

 

 

 

I can't stop... thinking about food. it's a legit issue. I have ADD, but it's only related to food.

 

 

Never have I ever... done anal or meth.

 

Reese Witherspoon... is still my favorite actress.  even after all that arrest hooplah.  maybe even more so.  how about you have a camera on you when you were a little tipsy and see the shit that comes out of your mouth.

catfish: don't let it happen to you.

i'm sure most of you are familiar with Catfish: the TV Show (now in its second season), or maybe Catfish the documentary that inspired the show, or maybe you remember what happened to that Notre Dame football player last year.

if you don't know ANY of these things...then you may want to read this post.  don't be a victim of catfishing. yes..."catfish" is no longer a noun to describe the fish with whiskers...it is now a noun that describes someone who pretends to be someone they're not online in pursuit of an online romance.  it can also be used as a verb. "I thought Framel was really Marq, but it turned out he was catfishing me" or "Damnit!  I got catfished!"

 

(sidenote: framel and marq were really names used on a previous episode)

and I want to provide with you ways to tell your online love is a Catfish...

 

1. you're in love with someone you've never met.

2. you only have 3 pictures of your online love they are either bathroom selfies. usually sans a shirt.

3. your online love always cancels plans to meet face-to-face.

4. if your fiance' is someone you've only communicated via online and/or text.

5. your online love says they are a model and/or rapper.

6. you don't know how to use google.

7. you email Nev and Max to help.

 

 

if you've reached the point where you're having to email Nev and Max to help you figure out if you're being catfished 10 times out of 10, your story will not end well.

 

it doesn't take that much to google someone, because all Nev and Max do is type in a name and 2 seconds later they find out that Marq is actually Joshua and the guy pretending to be Marq is really Framel.  Yes, this is real.

 

 

I google people I've actually met in real life.  I need to know everything about that person before we get deep into dating.  otherwise, later down the road I find out they have a criminal record (yes, really happened to me).

 

whenever a new episode starts, I know there will not be a happy ending for either party involved.  so the minute they meet the person who needs help (with learing how to use google images) my reaction is usually the same. bless.

 

 

so my favorite thing to do now is just try and guess what the Catfish actually looks like. 

 

y'all should play along too.  the best is to follow along via twitter while watching an episode.  I laugh the hardest when I'm following along fellow viewers' commentary on the twitter machine.

 

so far...there has only been one happy ending.

 

here is the happy couple.

 

 

#SuccessfulCatfishing

 

kya thought she was in love with alyx, a male.  alyx turned out to be dani, a transgendered girl working towards being a male.

 

good for them.  they found love online and I don't even have a boy that wants to speak to me in person.

 

my only successful online encounters have been with bloggers.  so, if your online love is a blogger you probably won't run the risk of being catfished.

 

you're welcome.