dating is...hard.

I'm never one to give out advice unless it's solicited or I can help that girl feel better about her current situation.  because trust me, I've been there and I probably have a story that will one up yours ten fold and then you'll thank your lucky stars you aren't me.

 

I want to help out the fellow single ladies by writing a post of tips to live by in the single girl world.

 

not to knock the married bloggers, but when they give out "single girl advice" it kind of like a slap in the face.  they already have their prince and they got him 7 years ago.  while i'm 29, still single, and not dating anyone.

 

I feel somewhat of a connoisseur of the single girl dating scene so here are some words of wisdom to live by...take it or leave it.

 

1. actions speak louder than words.

 

a guy can tell you every single day that he's gonna take you out to dinner or on this romantic weekend away, etc.  but until it happens...don't believe him.  and why is he saying he's GOING to do this stuff?  why isn't he asking you right away?

 

2. boys are not complicated.  if a boy likes you, there will be no doubt in your mind.  if you're "confused", then he doesn't like you. 

 

if a boy wants to text you, call you, date you, hang out with you...he'll do it.  if he doesn't do any of these things...he's not interested.

 

3. if a boy wants to be with you, nothing will stand in his way.

 

for example...I had been communicating with a guy for a month or so.  we had been friends for several years, things fell through, he moved 2 hours away, then we "reconnected" (by "reconnected" I mean I had a few too many margs one night and text him). we chatted for about a month.  I invited him to be my date to an event to which he in not so many words...declined.  I didn't cry, I didn't get mad or curse his name, I just knew that he isn't really worth my time anymore.  because if he REALLY liked me, like he had been saying all this time then he would have JUMPED at the chance to be my date.

 

4. if he isn't texting/calling...he's just not that into you. 

 

this is something I learned a LONG time ago when the "he's just not that into you" book was popular.  trust me ladies, there's none of this "waiting 3 days before they call you." no...if they want to text/call you...they'll do it...most of the time it's immediately.

 

5. you need to let the boy like you a little more than you like him.

 

profound advice from NeNe Leakes on #RHOA.

 

make him say the mushy stuff first, let him make the plans first, make him text/call you first.  don't give in...and when you want to "poke" at him to make sure he still "likes" you, refer to tip #4.

 

so just put your phone down. relax. go about your day. because according to these married ladies, we'll find someone when we least expect it.